Gaslighting is a method of abuse used by narcissists and other abusers to keep their target psychologically off balance. Gaslighting usually involves the abuser trying to make the victim doubt his or her own sanity, perception, memory and self-worth. The abuser persistently questions the victim’s behaviour, personality and mental attitude till the victim starts to …
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Narcissistic hoovering is when a narcissist who had previously devalued or discarded his partner tries to bring him/her back in his life. Most often they do this by being temporarily overly nice in order to attract their ex back. Most people who had been devalued or discarded by their narcissistic partner get really confused when …
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When I do relationship coaching, many people ask me what they can do to make a narcissist dependent on them in order to make it harder for the narcissist to leave them. I know you may be wondering why anybody would want to make a narcissist dependent on them but there are many reasons why …
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Narcissism does not only exist on a spectrum but also in types. While there is mild to severe narcissism, there is also pathological and healthy narcissism. Before you know what make some narcissists pathological and others healthy, let me first briefly define both of them. Pathological narcissists are the mentally ill type of narcissists. Most …
Do narcissists care if their ex moves on? A simple answer is yes but not always. Narcissists’ self-esteem, satisfaction with life and happiness greatly depends on the position they think they hold in other people’s mind. Of course we all do care about other people’s opinion to a certain extent, but the difference between a …
Sometimes when I’m coaching people who live with or broke up with an abusive narcissist, they ask me what they can do to inflict the highest possible pain on the abusive narcissist. Of course it’s normal to feel a desire for revenge after going through emotional abuse or betrayal but it’s important to consider if …
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Manipulation is not always a bad thing. We all manipulate people around us without even realizing. When was the last time you approached someone smiling even though you were not feeling that happy? You smiled because you wanted to get a positive feedback and have a smooth conversation right? Manipulation is not a bad thing …
Most often a relationship with a narcissist goes through idealisation, devaluation and ends with discard. Although a narcissist can idealise, devalue and discard their partner several times without actually ending the relationship. This means that you can still get a narcissist back even if they discarded you. In this article I will mainly focus on …
Do narcissists became more narcissistic as they age? Do they become more abusive and mean as they age? Does narcissism get worse with age? To answer these questions well, let me first give you a short life story of a certain ageing narcissists, let’s call him Robert. When Robert was still young, he was very …
Do narcissists feel bad when you move on? Do narcissists care if you move on? How does a narcissist feel when you move on? These are common questions I get when I’m coaching people who had recently broken up with a narcissist. That’s why I decided to write this article. Of course every narcissist is …