You can easily make a narcissist miss you by stimulating certain emotions in them. The human mind can be easily manipulated. You can easily manipulate a narcissist or any other person if you manged to induce certain emotions in him. People take actions based on what emotions they are feeling. Loneliness can make someone decide to visit his old friends or even start making new ones. Anger can force a person to pick a fight with someone else without thinking about the consequences. If you can induce certain emotions in a narcissist, you can easily control how they feel towards you. So, what emotions can you induce in a narcissist to make them miss you?
You may be thinking that it’s a rocket science to manipulate someone’s emotion but it’s something we all do every day. How did you feel the last time a stranger talked to you? Unless you are too confident in dealing with people, I guess you felt a little tension. What if that stranger approached you with an angry look on his face, how would you feel? Much fear right? You don’t have to be a “weirdo” to trigger certain emotions in people. A simple smile can change how someone feels towards you.
Of course perception play a big role here. What you would feel if a 12 years old boy insulted you is not the same as what you would feel if a muscular man insulted you.
What makes people miss others?
What can make a narcissist miss you is not much different from what would make anyone else miss you. We miss certain people when we are craving a certain emotional need that they used to satisfy, when nobody else is available to satisfy it. Let’s say you had a loving friend that you were very close to, but for some reasons you separated. Let’s suppose that both of you used to watch a movie at night, enjoying the moment together. Most probably, you would miss this friend as soon as you realize that you are bored watching a movie alone at night. In other words, we miss how positive some people can make us feel when we are feeling down, not just people themselves. But how about narcissists?
Narcissists are not remarkably different from normal people. The fact that they are highly manipulative does not mean that they cannot be manipulated. Actually, the fact that they least suspect others to manipulate them can make them easy to manipulate. In my article on how to make a narcissist jealous, I said that you must conceal your intentions as much as possible when trying to manipulate someone.
How to make a Narcissist Miss you
In my previous articles, I said that narcissists need narcissistic supply and attention so much. If you had been a good supply but for some reasons you separated, they would miss you so much if they didn’t manage to find an alternative supply. But does that mean being a good supply is the only way to make a narcissist miss you after separation? Of course not, because they would forget you as soon as they find an alternative. That is why need to more than just a supply.
Narcissists do have other emotional needs other than wanting to be important and superior. Emotional intimacy is one of the emotional needs that every human has. But most narcissists can hardly have a deep emotional intimacy with anyone. An intimate relationship or friendship with someone is when you can share your real emotions, fears and secrets without mistrusts. This can strengthen the bond between both people and end loneliness. But for narcissists, they are so defensive and mistrusting that they can hardly let anyone know about their inner self.
They need intimacy but the fear of being perceived as weak holds them back. As a result most of them live with unacknowledged loneliness despite being surrounded with fans. Intimacy is not about the number of friends but the quality of closeness. You can surround yourself with 100 fans but still feel lonely.
If you can tame a narcissist and turn him into a close friend, then you would be one of a kind to him. That would not only make them miss you after separation but they would hardly let you go.
As you can see, much should be done when you are still together. But this is not to say that there are no chances if the breakup has already happened. Reminding a narcissist of the good moments you have spent together can make him miss you. Of course you have to do it in an indirect way. Calling them and having a positive conversation can do the job.
In my book “manipulating the manipulator” I explained several ways to make a narcissist who had discarded you love you again. If your intention is to restore a relationship with a narcissist then there are several ways to do that if you can’t manage to make a narcissist miss you.