Narcissists like to give people silent treatment whenever a conflict happens. Most of the time these silent treatments are temporary but they can cause the victim a lot of stress especially if they don’t understand why the narcissist is ignoring them. This article will help you estimate how long a narcissist will ignore you so that you avoid the emotional frustration that their silent treatment may cause especially when you don’t know whether the silent treatment is temporary or not.
While it’s impossible to predict exactly how long a narcissist will ignore you, you can estimate how long they will ignore you by understanding the factors that determine how long narcissists ignore their partners, exes, and people.
Below are the factors that will determine how long a narcissist will ignore you.
1. The reason why they are ignoring you
This is one of the biggest factors that will determine how long a narcissist ignores you. In my article: Why do narcissists ignore texts, I explained several reasons why a narcissist may ignore you such as: backing off to see your response, to punish you, thinking that you don’t like them, and so on.
Depending on the reason why a narcissist is ignoring you, they may ignore you for a shorter or longer period of time. For example, if the narcissist started ignoring you because they thought you don’t like them or because they didn’t get the response they expected after showing interest in you, they may keep ignoring you until they see enough signs that you like them.
On the other hand, if the narcissist is ignoring you because they are mad at you, they will get back in touch with you as soon as their anger cools off.
2. How you react
Another important factor that will determine how long a narcissist ignores you is your reaction. One of the things narcissists like is seeing a reaction from people.
Whenever a narcissist is ignoring you they are doing it to achieve a certain goal, whether it’s to hurt you, to make you regret taking a certain action or to get you attached, the only thing that can tell them if they are achieving their goal or not is your reaction.
This means that the reaction they get from you can either make them stop ignoring you or keep ignoring you.
This does not mean that there’s a certain reaction you can give a narcissist to make them stop ignoring you but rather depending on what your reaction means to them it can make them stop ignoring you or keep ignoring you.
Let’s suppose a narcissist started ignoring you right after they saw you flirting with someone else or doing something they consider emotional cheating (based on their perception), in this case they will be mad at you and they may keep ignoring you as long as you keep trying to initiate contact with them but as soon as you give up, or as soon as they realize that you’re about to move on they may become open for communication. See: How to take control away from a narcissist.
3. Their emotional state at that time
In my article: how to make a narcissist miss you, I said that we miss certain people when we find ourselves in a situation where we need something they used to provide us with. For example, if you have a friend who always keeps you company whenever you go out to public events, you may never miss them when you’re at home or at work but as soon as you go out to a public event without them you’ll start missing them.
A narcissist’s emotional state players a big role in determining how long they will ignore you. That’s why sometimes narcissists block and unblock their partners even though their partner didn’t do anything.
Even meeting new people can make the narcissist miss you. This happens when they meet new people whom they expect to replace you with. When they compare you to the new person and find that you’re better than them they will miss you and they may even start contacting you.
Keep this in mind
Being constantly ignored by a narcissist can be so frustrating especially when you still care about them. The purpose of this article is to help you estimate how long a narcissist can ignore you by analyzing the three factors I explained so that you should have realistic expectations.
If you find that you find that they are ignoring you longer than you estimated then you should consider moving on. See: is ignoring a narcissist who ignores you a good idea?